First, by looking at the banner of this post, none of us should really be sad these people aren’t reproducing for obvious reasons, but I think there’s more to say about this story…
Back in May, Vice published an article titled, “The People Choosing to Be Sterilised in Their Twenties,” and as the title implies, it goes through a couple of young women who have decided that rather than having children, they’d rather save themselves and the world, by sterilizing themselves and never having children. This trend isn’t new and it also isn’t unpopular. “This phenomenon, known as the “childfree movement”, is the subject of a new BBC Three documentary, Young and Sterile: My Choice, exploring why teenagers and 20-somethings are advocating childlessness by choice, despite not already having children of their own,” Vice writes. “Today, one in five British women will never have kids, up from one in ten in the 1970s.”
That’s a large swathe of the population that is going to die, and with it, the culture of the United Kingdom. Aside from the massive death of a population, I think there’s something much more nefarious underway here.
There are only a handful of reasons someone can really give to deny their desire to have children. Look, I’m not going to argue that everyone should have kids–some people genuinely don’t want kids, but with the growing trend of anti-family content, anti-family sentiments, and the desire to destroy children, I think we need to look at what’s happening and maybe figure out the way.
Katelin, a 19-year-old mentioned in the Vice article, gives these reasons for her choice to sterilize herself: She has mental health problems and a serious heart defect she doesn’t want to pass on, and she “enjoys her vagina exactly the way it is.” Paul Pritchard, a man from the documentary said, “I’ve never thought of myself as a father.” I’m sort of curious to know what his relationship was with his father, but that’s just me. Additionally, Pritchard said he didn’t want children because he has suffered from depression and has diabetes.
Andie, a third person mentioned, said she 1) doesn’t identify as any gender and 2) her choice stems from the abuse she suffered at the hands of her mother and she’s frightened of to become like her mother. There’s no explanation of what Andie’s mother did to her, but it must have been pretty bad if she’s disassociating with herself (rejection of genders/use of they/them) and she fears having children because she could turn into her mother and make someone else experience what she experienced.
I think we need to take a look at mental health and the breakdown of the family. Each of these people are mentally disturbed in some way and they all find sterilization to be the best way to spend their lives. This isn’t just a childless life, this is a mutilate the body, change nature, and live childlessly. There’s no reason to sterilize yourself at 19, even if you don’t want kids. This speaks to a larger problem.
In reading their stories, the world has taught them to fear families. The world has taught them it’s better to be alone than with anybody; the family was only meant to harm. There are a couple reasons why this type of behavior would be heavily encouraged, especially by the state. We already know that when someone doesn’t have their family, they replace the family with the state. Each of these people will rely more on the state for money, friendship, benefits, breaks, anything. They’ll look for the affection they crave from a family from the government instead because they don’t have that family. They’ll tell themselves they don’t want a family, while still looking for the benefits families provide.
Andie goes on to say, “This idea that women have to settle down, get married, have children – it’s quite a moral thing, isn’t it? Life isn’t just about reproduction.”
What’s funny about this statement is, whether you look at life from an evolutionary or religious standpoint, that is actually what life is about. In Darwinian terms, the only point in life is to carry on your lineage. Make it stronger, better, faster. Keep the bloodline going and work to make your bloodline better than others. The whole survival of the fittest, animal pyramid thing. If you look at it from a Christian perspective, life is about worshiping and honoring God and one of the ways humans are to do this is by going forth and populating the earth.
Andie claims that women wanting to get married and have children isn’t biological in nature, but it’s a symptom of the patriarchy. That means she has to argue against the decades, if not millennia, of women who have wanted nothing but to settle down and have kids naturally. Is every woman who has ever existed and wished to have a husband and children just a victim of the patriarchy or are they simply doing what’s natural? Humans are social creatures and living a life alone is, I think, one of the most unnatural things a human can do. And like I said before, not all men or women have to want, but if they go looking for that family attention from others, I think they’re lying to themselves about what their needs truly are and maybe their egos are too big to admit they made a mistake.
At the end of the article, we get to what this is all really about. Katelin says, “I want time alone, time with my partner and time to travel and spend money on luxury. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that,” she says. “My generation live in a broken world. We come from broken homes and have broken minds and bodies. Many of us just don’t want to reproduce. It’s my life, and I’m not hurting anyone.”
The millennial generation is screwed up. There’s little argument there. Broken homes, daycare, and everyone gets a trophy. Millennials typically fall into one of two camps: They were extremely hard and build something incredible or they are completely helpless, depressed, and can’t do anything. They may even scream like babies and look for crayons and bubble wrap at college. Millennials, for whatever reason, are a generation of nihilists who don’t believe in the family or community. They feel so broken and betrayed that they despise the world so much they want to spend their lives on taking care of themselves only and thinking little of anyone else.
Each statement in this article reads as insecure or selfish, fearful, unconfident, and goes on to solidify the thought that they cannot be anything and that they are a failure. If these people don’t believe in themselves to do small tasks or jobs, they won’t believe in themselves to do one of the biggest jobs known to man: parenting. They fear failure so much because they haven’t experienced it in full force. There’s no participation trophy for parenting. It’s something you just have to do and hopefully, you have the resources to do it right.
But so many would rather give up, lock themselves away, and rather than pick up any sort of responsibility, they’ll remain children for the rest of their lives with the golden lie that, “I don’t care if I’m alone.” Until they’re 40 or 50 and it’s too late to change anything.
My generation is filled with so many lies that make us miserable, and so many buy them. It’s no wonder there’s depression everywhere you go. Think of only yourself. Don’t plan ahead. You don’t need a family. You don’t need friends. Yet as they get older, these same people will vote for larger government to take care of them in the ways families would have. They’re children who don’t want to confront their feelings, so instead they run.
And I just think it’s sad. It’s all really sad. This sort of trend and the complete rejection of family should be a wake up call that something is wrong. These women will wake up in ten, twenty, third, forty years, and be miserable because they don’t have the joy their friends have. They’ll realize they were sold a lie and they will be livid. At that point, what can you do but try to brin