Just recently I found a website called the “Good Men Project.” Like anything claiming to be a good cause by name (“Ministry of Truth,” “Gentlemen’s Club,” “Governmental Donation”), the Good Men Project is the exact opposite of what it claims to be. The article that brought me to the website is called “‘Can I Touch Your Penis?’ Consent and the 3-Year-Old (#ThisIsHowSexismEnds Series)”
It’s disturbing in a lot of ways, one of which is this mother, to a son, assumes her song will be a rapist and sexist by virtue of having a dick. While leftists scream not all penis carriers are men, I find it odd that they’d also assume everyone with a dick will be a rapist because they are men. Sounds to me like the progressive myths are getting a little scrambled, but I digress. I wanted to share and dissect this article because over the last few months, we’ve seen a rise in pedophile activity. Conservatives and Christians have been talking about the slippery slope to pedophilia for some time, and we’re seeing it come out more and more now. The effective tactics to sexualizing children won’t be NAMBLA members holding up AdultxChild love signs at rallies nor will the “Age is Just a Number” campaign be the first thing they do; those tactics will come later down the line as the sexualization of children is more accepted in a broader sense.
“Transgenderism” is being used as a method to teach children about sexuality. This year, Washington State started to teach children as young as kindergarten age about transgenderism, and they’re not the only ones teaching small children about this. The importance of teaching children about transgenderism and how it corrupts children is in the fact you have to describe the difference between men and women and why someone might feel gender dysphoria–except the people who teach this stuff don’t even mention dysphoria or that it’s a mental disorder causing the discomfort. They talk about it as a, “You do you”ism. This year, we’ve also seen things like the birth of a nine-year-old boy ‘drag queen,’ paraded around and dragged to adult events like drag conventions. Any adult who has looked at drag anything knows it’s sexualized, knows it’s not a family event, and in many cases, drag performers go for the most outrageous, inappropriate names (Detox iCunt? Cunty Horny? Panti? Ongina? Sharon Needles? Alaska Thunderfuck? There’s more), but they also often dress in adult manners, lipsync adult songs, and dance in provocative ways. Look up drag queen performances on youtube and they collect bills much like strippers.
This is how the corruption and sexualization of children will begin: through small actions called family friendly or education but are overtly sexual… and that includes stuff like this article from the Good Men Project.
Writer Paget Norton starts out by saying,
I’ve been extremely dismayed to read so much about rape culture, how women and girls are treated, how men and boys are raised.
The very basis of this article is, “Women are brought up to be victims, men are brought up to victimize. Kinda like the woman from the last article, Norton just assumes every male is an evil rapist in waiting and the only difference is she has yet to be raped by the male in question, but she probably believes they’re all rapists who can’t control themselves and she’s likely one of those people who believes every woman has been raped or sexually harassed.
Funny aside: I was in a thread once where a crazy feminist was declaring every female in existence has been raped or sexually assaulted and all men should feel bad. When I said I wasn’t, she called me a male-to-female transexual and told me to put on clean panties for the rapist she was sending over. This is how pro-female these people are. They don’t care about safety, they don’t care about women, they don’t care about society. They want to ruin everyone in order to have the ability to scream, “Look! I’m right!”
The article continues:
I’ve read so much about how to teach our boys what NOT to do vis-a-vis girls and women (which I usually agree with), yet I read so little about how to simply raise them to be emotionally evolved/aware, conscious, respectful of themselves and others, and well-versed in consent (for themselves and others) that I sometimes feel left in the dark. In the face of that, I am absolutely determined to do my part around raising a boy who is proud of who is he, aware of his and others’ boundaries, curious and questioning about himself and the world.
There’s nothing wrong with teaching a child to question everything; every child should be taught to question everything, especially authority figures. That’s one of the best ways to defend oneself against bad information and totalitarians. Give them the ability to critically think and question, but there’s also the mix in here of wanting to confuse the child. Make him question who he is, but also be proud of who he is. You can’t be proud of something you have no grasp on.
The biggest issue in this paragraph is her accusation that boys and men do not grow up with their own emotional awareness, consciousness or sense of respect. Again, we’re dropping every male in the bucket of a ‘purp,’ and one way it seems she’s doing this is by seeing men express themselves and learn differently than women. A gynocentric society doesn’t help men, but it hurts them, and that’s one of the reasons why they’re receding from society as much as they are. Schools are built for girls and girls’ learning. Work is being shifted for female needs and if you act or think like a man, you’re the bad guy. Men and women have differences in how they communicate, respond, build, create, work–and these people blurring the lines of gender deny those differences exist while also saying they exist in men, but society can just wash that out of them and make them more like girls.
The article continues:
I think it begins here. Now. One child at a time.
Sometimes one bath at a time.
In the bath the other day, my three year old said, “Mama, if I stretch out, I”ll touch your vulva.”
Question: How many 3-year-olds do you know that know the word ‘vulva’? Most 20 and 30 year olds don’t know what a vulva is. So, this woman is either making this all up or she is doing some very inappropriate stuff with her child….
The article continues:
I said, “I don’t really want you to touch my vulva. Besides, you need to ask. Like, if someone wanted to touch your penis, they should ask, Can I touch your penis?”
Three year-old, slightly exasperated, “Say, Can I touch your penis?”
I was slightly slow on the uptake. Suddenly it dawned on me. “You want me to ask if I can touch your penis?”
It was an unusual request, but I decided to go with it. “Can I touch your penis?” I asked.
Can you guess what’s about to happen? The article reads:
I reach over and touch him for about one second.
Yup. This woman, probably in her mid to late twenties just touched yer 3-year-old son’s penis because he wanted her to… Because that’s what we do now. If your child says they want something, regardless of what it is, you give it to them. The article continues:
He pauses. Then, he says, “Mama, my penis is very sensitive.” I nod.
“Yeah. My vulva is sensitive, too. Sometimes breasts and nipples are also sensitive.”
His face lights up. “Do you want to touch my boobies?” he asks. He places his fingers on his little nipples.
“Okay. Actually, those are your nipples.”
“Do you want to touch my nipples.”
I touch one lightly.
“Do you want to touch the other one?”
I touch the other one lightly.
He smiles. I smile. And then he wants to play wrong-way whale and thrash around in the tub,so I get out. There’s truly one room for one in the bathtub when playing wrong-way whale.
And now she’s playing with his nipples. She’s playing with the nipples of her 3-year-old because he asked her if she wanted to–and apparently, she wanted to. “But it can’t be all that bad!” You might be saying to yourself. “This was a learning opportunity or something.” Well, get ready for her ‘unpacking’ of the situation. The article reads:
Here were my take-aways.
Setting boundaries around my body as a parent.
He wanted to touch a part of me that I didn’t want him to touch. I set the boundary—and actually had a history of setting a boundary when we were breastfeeding. There was a certain point where I knew he could ask to nurse through gesture or word, so I insisted that he did. I never let him simply grab my breasts or lift my shirt. This felt important to me. I think this is key for parents.
What boundaries do you set around your body for your kids?
Firstly, when most parents think of setting boundaries with their kids, it’s more like the language their children are allowed to use, what authority means, what their chores are, and other house rules, not whether or not the parents can touch the nips or dicks of their toddlers. Most parents, I’m going to assume, don’t have to tell their child not to touch their vulva because they don’t put themselves in that situation.
Also, momentary aside, good parents set their children on feeding schedules so they know when to eat. Then you don’t have the problem with them attempting to lift your shirt whenever because it’s a free tap–they know there’s a schedule.
The article continues:
Setting boundaries around other people touching him.
When he doesn’t want to kiss or hug or even high five, I reinforce our family rule that no one is pushed to be affectionate when they don’t want to be. This extends to everyone. At one point, my mom questioned this (as others have done), along the lines of: Shouldn’t he *have* to hug and kiss family? To which I’ve responded with a resounding No. In face of the fact that over 90% of children are abused by someone they know and 30 – 40% are abused by a family member, I think it’s absolutely critical that he be 100% at choice around how he gives and receives affection. I want him to listen to his body, his desires, even his whims when it comes to consent around his body. I want him to notice when he wants to be affectionate and not. I want him to honor others when they don’t want him to touch them, and to learn not to take it personally. I want his desire to be affectionate to come from a place of a genuine yes, not a “no, but I have to, so . . . ” I wonder what other parents do.
Do you obligate your child to be affectionate with yourself or other people, perhaps because they are friends or relatives?
There’s nothing wrong with showing affection to your family. This is actually a dangerous place we’re getting to when showing your familial love for your family is not only looked down upon, but discouraged and shamed in some cases. You said yourself you want to teach your child to question, so they should be questioning you wanting to touch him–or anyone else. Yet here, in the bathtub, your son is not questioning why you want to touch him. Lady, you’re sitting here warning against the sexual abuse of children, especially by family, as you write an article about how you sexually touched your son. You’re part of the statistics now.
Now, if you thought anything before was edgy, get ready for the kicker. The article continues:
A child’s sexuality vs. an adult sexuality.
So when my three year old asked me to touch him, I also had to check in with myself. Was this an “okay” thing to do? And I realized that it was, for two reasons. One, he had made the request. Two, I knew that while I was touching his penis, I wasn’t bringing my adult sexuality to play. This makes a world of difference from where I’m coming from. Children are very sensual and sexual creatures, but their sexuality is not an adult sexuality. They don’t have the same hormonal drive, the same desires, the same needs. Sure, children do masturbate and feel pleasure (why shouldn’t they?) AND I know I want my son to be able to choose when he wants to receive and give pleasure.
It brings to mind the question: do you ever collapse an adult sexuality with a child’s sexuality?
How can you separate those when you have young children?
Norton just claimed that children are very sensual and sexual creature. You claim it was alright to touch your son’s penis because you weren’t bringing your adult sexuality into it, but by claiming a 3-year-old is a sensual and sexual creature, you effectively admitted you brought your adult sexuality into it. 3-year-olds aren’t sexual. You also have stated you want your son to be able to choose when he wants to receive and give pleasure–so what if he decided he wanted it now, with you? Or with his aunt or uncle when he’s 8? Is it now okay to give children free-reign to do whatever they want because anything short of telling your child yes is considered ‘abuse’? Children don’t know boundaries and they are unable to think in the long-run. A parent’s job is to protect the child, not give into whatever your child demands. What if he wants to eat a bucket of candy? That gives him pleasure and who are you to tell him no?
Norton is effectively arguing here that you should never tell your child no because when they decide they want something is when they should definitely have it. If your 5-year-old decides he’s old enough now to choose he wants sexual stimulation, who are you to say no? It’s funny she’s making this argument while also saying she thinks men and boys are taught to be rapists. Just because someone wants something doesn’t mean they get it, but the behavior she’s teaching this child is just that: you want, you get.
Also should be noted, her follow-up questions are nefarious. “Do you ever collapse an adult sexuality with a child’s sexuality?” She is plainly asking here when is it okay to have sex with children and are you okay with adults having sex with children. Again, she said that touching her child’s penis was okay because she didn’t bring her adult sexuality into it, but in this article about that situation, she’s asking when it’s okay to see a child as a sexual being. “How can you separate those when you have young children?” How can you separate wanting to bang a toddler while you have a toddler? How about just not banging children or even considering banging children. As a mother of a toddler, you should be more aware than even childless adults that children are not sexual beings and it is never okay to touch them sexually.
As a mother, you should realize that your child wants to do everything in his power to make the people he loves happy, most of all, he wants to make his mother happy. If you said you wanted to touch him sexually and that it’d make you happy, he would do it; he would do it without knowing anything you were saying. You’re taking advantage of your child and his desire to make you happy by touching him now. He saw how excited you were when you spoke of touching his penis and he saw how excited you were when speaking of nipples, he wanted to make you happy and he will continue to want to make you happy.
Without a doubt in my mind, this is one of the reasons why children are more often abused by people they know: their family and friends are the world to them. It’s not hard to see.
The article finishes with the last ‘point’ Norton wants to address:
Checking in about how/what I want to touch even after consent is given.
Another important pieces is I had to ask myself if I wanted to touch his penis. I was a yes out of pure curiosity. I wanted to see where the thread of inquiry went and how the conversation around consent would unfold. I love seeing how his mind works, and how the lightbulbs go on. It worked for me. There are other times, however, when I don’t feel like being affectionate. I learn how to be a generous no, so he can learn how to receive it. Are you ever affectionate with your child when you don’t want to be? Are there times when you could be a generous no?
For me, all of this is the beginning of planting the seeds of consent. It is about empowering my son with knowledge about his body and my body as well – and truly whatever body he comes into contact with. It is about teaching him to ask for what he wants. And of equal importance, it is about never shaming him for his desires. He can want what he wants, and express what he wants.
It doesn’t mean he’s going to get it, and it doesn’t mean there’s any shame in simply asking.
Yeah, go back and read that again. The ADULT asked herself if she wanted to touch the 3-year-old’s penis, and because she decided she was curious and the child asked for it, then it was okay. Do teenagers not touch each other out of desire and curiosity? Do adults? It’s disgusting that Norton wraps her curiosity in sexually touching children in this ‘conversation about consent.’ If she wanted to talk consent to a 3-year-old, there are so many other ways to do it that a 3-year-old would understand. Hugging, if you wanted to stick with the ‘touching’ consent or about consenting to allow others to use your property–such as consenting to play with his toys? My guess is talking about property and consent doesn’t prepare a child for molestation and also cuts into teaching him about communism.
She says, “And of equal importance, it is about never shaming him for his desires. He can want what he wants, and express what he wants.” Am I to understand that if her son grew up wanting to bang his mom, she wouldn’t shame him for it, but she would give into his desires because she taught him that type of expression was alright? Again, we return to the opening bit of this article where she says she’s worried about how boys take what they want, and this whole thing is colored as consent, but it closes with, “Never shaming for his desires and to express what he wants.” What if what he wants doesn’t want him? You’ve already said you wouldn’t shame him for doing what he wants to fulfill himself.
This is a thinly veiled attempt to slip in pedophilia and sex with children as ‘education,’ exactly what I mentioned at the top of this article.
Even more interesting, if you’re still not convinced, were Norton’s comments. Someone had asked what if the positions were switched and it was a father touching a daughter’s vagina? Her only response to that was, “For the clitoris analogy, that’s a tricky one. To do a one-second touch on the vulva (not specifically clitoris) would probably be more accurate.” She never actually answered the question.
To close it out here’s a comment from creep factor named “Bill Noble” and her response. He’s clearly referring to pedophiliac relationships and she.. Says nothing:
Do not be confused by what this is… If you felt disgusted, good because it is plainly disgusting…